Why I Love Setting Goals in the New Year
Ok, I’m going to try and keep this one short…
I love the New Years. I love it because it IS a fresh start. I get to get a new sheet of paper, collect my thoughts, and start over…FRESH.
I watched Payton as she quickly grabbed a new sheet of paper after the old one was “finished”. Finished is sort of a loose word for what was on the old sheet. It was a bunch of lines, some circles, and a few letters tossed in….But, it was finished, and off she went onto the next blank sheet.
The lesson I learn from Payton as she works on her art, is that kids don’t see failure the same way we do, and they are quick to start over if needed.
First, Payton doesn’t see her lines and scribbles of absolutely nothing, as failure. To her, it’s just her creating…Doing…Trying…Nothing more, nothing less. If she goes out to draw a circus, and draws only one small line in the middle of the page, “it’s a circus.” Never mind, the circus tent, the circus monkeys, the lions, the lion tamer, etc, etc. The single line that she drew is “her circus.” Why the hell not??
As adults, we have formed our thoughts of what success is and what it’s not. A lot of times, it’s probably formed from what we think others will think of it. For instance, if it creates money, it is likely a success. Or, if it gets you ahead, it was likely a success. On the other hand, if it doesn’t create money, or doesn’t get you ahead, it’s a failure…a waste of time. But, why is that?
Why should we be so worried about what other people think? Can’t we just do things because they are enjoyable in themselves? Can’t we create and do things that miss the target and not feel condemned for doing so? Personally, I think so. But, I think we need to practice to break away the conditioning that we have built up around seeing things as failures, when they are actually us just creating, doing, trying.
Second, Payton is constantly living in the moment. She has no time for sitting to the side, listing the pro’s and con’s, and making a list of reasons for why she should, or should not do something. Nor, does she take too much time to worry if a past effort didn’t go as expected. If she wants to put on a dance show, she puts on a dance show. If she wants to draw a castle and princess, she does it. And, if she runs out of white space on the paper unexpectedly, she immediately grabs a new piece of paper and starts over.
We could definitely learn something from our kids here. While, there are definitely some pro’s and con’s to knowing how to plan and prepare for actions, there is something to be said for taking action immediately, and changing plans quickly if necessary.
In summary, I think the New Year is a great time to clean the plate and start everything over fresh. Everything that happened in 2015 was in 2015. Regardless of what happened in 2015, 2016 is a brand new year…if you allow it to be. I encourage you to start the year fresh by stating some goals, putting them down on paper, and going after them. Who cares if you don’t succeed!!!! It’s not actually about succeeding or failing anyway. It’s about creating…Doing…and trying.
Get out there and get after it MBS. I believe in you!